There is something that is weighing heavily on my chest and I need to get it off. May I vent, yall?
Father’s day, as Hallmark of a day it is, was created to celebrate all of the fathers in our lives and community. It is a day to tip our hats off to them and to pay them respect for all of the love, attention, and protection they give to their children. It is a day to honor the fathers for all of their hard work and the sacrifices that they make for their kids. It’s a time for dads to be celebrated! But sadly every year I see more and more posts on Facebook and elsewhere (including the father’s day card section) praising single mothers. First and foremost, I respect single mothers to the fullest! Being a parent is not an easy feat and to do it on their own with no help from the father is commendable and they deserve recognition, respect, and love…on MOTHER’S day (and every other day of the year!) NOT FATHER’S DAY!
It’s a known fact that there are a lot of father’s out there who aren’t in their children’s lives (for one reason or another) and this has especially become a problem in the black community but this day isn’t about them. Give the attention to the dads who are actually stepping up to be the dads that their kids need and the partner (whether still romantically involved or not) that the mothers need.
My dad didn’t know his father at all, and because of that he made a point to be in his kids lives no matter what. He didn’t want us to go through the pain that he went through. He loved us more than anything and worked hard to be the best dad that he could be. This day is to celebrate dads like him. They don’t deserve to be overshadowed by the “deadbeat dads” and “single mothers who do it all”. A mother, no matter how good they are and how hard they work to be the best parent that they can be, can never fill the shoes of a father.
So from here on out please give fathers the love and attention that they deserve on this day. Mothers have their day, let the dads have theirs. Let’s uplift our dads, not downplay their importance.
Happy Father’s day!